Posted: 01:16 GMT, Jan. March 2021 | Updated: 01:22 GMT, Jan. March 2021

Broadcaster Yumi Stynes ​​has explained how she uses “safe words” while tickling her young children to teach them about consent

The ongoing nationwide debate on sexual assault and consent, particularly when it is appropriate to bring the matter up with children, continued on Thursday evening in a powerful episode of Q&A

Stynes, who is writing an upcoming book Welcome To Consent, on the panel discussed how she’s introducing the concept of saying no to her youngest two children while tickling them

‘It’s touch, it’s intimate, it’s fun, just like sex. It’s usually done between people who know each other, which is also like sex,’ explained the mother of four (45)

Yumi Stynes ​​(pictured) has revealed that she used safe words with her youngest children to introduce the concept of consent

‘And there’s always a point in a kid where they start walking: “I kind of hate that I’m scared and I’ll throw up and pee myself”

‘And they want to call it stop, but a lot of their body language is confusing because they seem to be enjoying themselves too

‘In these cases, this is a really good opportunity for the people doing the tickling, who are generally a caregiver or an elderly person, to say, “Should I stop?”‘

She also suggested using safe words to discuss the consent that children get into

‘If I tickle them they might yell “stop, stop, stop” And I think they might want to keep going. When they say “pineapple” I know it’s time out

‘Confident verbal conversation in a sexual context is really good. At the start of an intimate encounter, you’re already talking about consent and setting up something that gives you an escape hatch’

Yumi Stynes ​​(left) told the Q&A panel that her youngest children (pictured) say eggplant or pineapple when they want to stop being tickled

She added that when a conversation becomes too vivid, gross, or adult for them, children tune out

“Information is a gift, and that is the gift parents should give their children,” said Stynes ​​

‘If it’s too much, apply your own filters and censor yourself I think we need to get into the conversations before the puberty hormones start playing with your brain’

At the beginning of the program, Stynes ​​rejected the NSW police commissioner’s approval app proposed by Mick Fuller as a terrible idea

‘Anyone who’s ever been attacked or even pushed into something in any way knows it’s a bad idea’

‘If you can be coerced into sex, you can easily be coerced into ticking a box’

The mother of four (pictured) was part of an extensive panel discussion on sexual assault and agreeing to a powerful episode of Q & A

Stynes ​​also opened the show about an encounter she was exposed to when she kissed a boy as an inexperienced 15-year-old

‘The next minute his penis is on my mouth so I was really surprised I had never done that before,’ recalled Stynes

‘And I loved it again and the penis comes back to my mouth

‘So this is a non-consensual incident, technically an attack, but at the time I didn’t evaluate it as a thing’

The broadcaster Yumi Stynes ​​(pictured with her husband and one of their children) is currently writing a book about consent that will be published in the coming months

Stynes ​​later said she was proud to be part of a “really invested and thoughtful” panel on the show that has been described by many viewers as one of the best ever

‘I think it’s really important to focus on real change so that victims of rape, abuse and assault are not resuscitated by the judicial system and rich and powerful abusers don’t get away with horrific crimes ‘Stynes ​​posted on Instagram on Friday

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